If you want to win the lotto, then you have to start playing the lotto, life is a game of cat an mouse. You can always go fetch cheese, but the risk is greater than the reward. Life is a bunch of gambles you take in order to live longer. Waiting can bring opportunities, but sometimes you just have to find the one that catches your eyes, and say, "That's the one." Then you do everything in your power to get them. But the lonelyness we feel probably isn't the same, we yearn for comfort and understanding, but we don't get people that understand us, so we feel lonely.
Idk. For me I feel lonely because I want someone I can deeply connect with. But at least I've got a sibling I'm close to, so I can't really complain.
Yeah, for me is something similar to that. I need people that I can understand and that can understand me, otherwise it will feel like there's a huge barrier between me and the people... Such unbreachable barrier that isolate me from the people no matter how close we are physically, that's loneliness for me.
To be frank I thought this was a thread about how weird it is to be physically alone. When I am alone I always feel like I'm being watched; it really freaks me out!
On the note of being alone, a believe that the ever popular main trope of the yandere is the inaction effect. The Inaction effect being when the target of a yandere's love does nothing to attract the yandere's love. It would seem to be that putting in no effort can still bear the fruits of love. This is contrary not only to real life but to the assumed story of the target of affection (TOA). The TOA usually is somewhat socially, if not romantically active. This is also true in real life, so it is that you need not let yourself bend to creeds unlike your own. It is essential, though, that you live (even half heartedly) out some social something or other. This is difference between fishing without bait and fishing with, even if the bait is 3 corn kernels you found right next to you.
Now I am not here to judge what you do with your time, but I do want to leave you with this message. A yandere lover doesn't just love yanderes, they love others in hope of the yandere spiriting them away into a warm and full of love basement. θδθ
I can't say much, but imagine forming a bond with someone you trust with everything. The one person who, no matter what happens, will always be by your side til the end. But now imagine that person betraying you and being told you were nothing but a tool. From that day on, you started to do everything on your own. All your interactions feel fake, and you can't fully trust anyone. You might be able to make friends and talk to people. But you know, dam well, you're on your own. Always feeling like an outcast and never feeling like you belong anywhere.
I'm not sure who all this question is aimed at, but here I go.
I remember hoping someone would find me attractive, and ask me to be their partner, since I was just a kid. I was fine for awhile because I had some friends. But from what I remember, I didn't have many.
According to my mother, all the girls swarmed me in daycare, to the point she could barely say goodbye to me. I really don't remember such, and I remember a fair amount of my time there. Perhaps my mom was exaggerating, or maybe I just really don't remember it. After all, everyone including my grandfather, claimed he hit me with his cane. Although I don't remember that at all, I know it was well deserved, if he did. (I was a bit of a menace, and knew he couldn't chase me, so I can guarantee I had it coming.)
As, I got older though, I found I didn't really do very well, at making friends. They didn't really want to hang around the hyper kid, with ADHD, so I only had a very few. Due to my ADHD, I can't sit still for very long at all. My brain needs to be occupied by something, cause if it's not then I'm alone with my thoughts, and my thoughts remind me how little time there is in life, even when I was younger.
I got to middle school, and finally found my group. We'd play tag at lunch, and everything, life seemed okay. Until we moved. Once we moved to Arizona, I couldn't handle going out in the heat, I struggled to go out on my bike, and the friends I did make out here, didn't last long. I eventually grew stressed because of school, bullying, the heat, my allergies, and more. We moved back and forth, almost once a year.
I got put into an online school, which proved lethal to my chances of graduation from highschool. This was everyone's attempts to get me away from the bullying, despite me having already accepted my fate of regular highschool. (I figured highschool wouldn't be too bad, of a change for me, and was actually excited, then they put me in Primavera. That was a mistake, but maybe that was my fault for not speaking up, not that I fully understood what was going on at the time. Either way, this led to severe anxiety.)
My family became emotionally distant, and I just haven't felt like I had anyone for years. I still love my family, but I need someone who can really draw out my intimate side. Someone who can be my best friend, or even a significant other.
Loneliness, for me, was originally a silent whisper of doubt, that has since, became a swirling tornado, of sorrow. I'm looking for someone who could just keep me company, make me feel less alone. Although, I don't want to pass my sorrows or silent suffering onto anyone else. But, if someone feels happy just being with me, no matter my state of mind, I would be glad to make that happen. Friend or romantic partner, either is enough. As long as they're happy being in my presence, I'll gladly stick around. But, I don't want to feel like I'm intruding, so always be aware of your limits and let me know when to leave.
As I say, feel free to send me a private message, I'm fine with friends, or potential romances. Don't feel obligated to, as I don't want to bring anyone down further than they might already be. Just message me if you think it'll make you happy. I'm fine either way.
But, basically, I agree with what Vento, the original person, said. Loneliness is like waiting for something to happen. A slight glimmer of hope, that remains constantly out of reach. Something that feels like it's available for others, just not for you. You may know you're not the only one who feels like this, yet it doesn't make you feel less lonely. Loneliness is a pain worse than most others. It's a numbing feeling that hurts, because you want to feel something. But there's just... Nothing.
I don't know, if what I said makes sense to others, but I figured, I'd share my thoughts on the matter. I've suffered a lot of physical and mental loneliness, I just want someone to be there, someone to play videogames with, talk to, cuddle with. I hope people understand, I just hope they don't feel this bad, or worse, because it's not a feeling I'd wish upon anyone.
Anyway, I hope everyone finds someone or something that makes them feel less lonely. I'm still waiting for a girl to throw that Love Ball, at me, until I finally go in... If you get the reference, then I'd definitely like to hear a response from you, in a private message.
I probably spewed a bit too much info, and potentially got a little too personal. Sorry if I did. But, I hope this helps someone. Maybe someone can connect with it in some way, and feel a little less lonely. Because loneliness, doesn't have to mean, no one's physically near you. You can have a whole community there, and still be just as alone, as a person in solitude.
