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Changing for them?


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Hello, wanted to pose this question to you all. In pursuit of love, most seem willing to do or tolerate less than legal acts to secure it. I wonder if change of beliefs or personality is on that list of "negotiables". Current example I'm thinking of is dropping an interest such as reading or soccer, picking up what your partner would enjoy instead.

Or when it comes to your own belief system/moral code. Does that go down the drain if helps in keeping them engaged and around, or is it a bridge too far in altering your identity?

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In terms of beliefs, I won't negotiate my religion.

I would change anything else to make the person more comfortable/happy.

What is love? Baby don't hurt me. Don't hurt me. No more. Dun Dun - Dun Dun Dun Dun - Dun
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I think of myself as being slightly elastic or moldable, so I would change myself to an extent to better fit my partner. I don't exactly know what I might change, but in the past I've dropped interests and developed new ones and started liking things I wouldn't normally like but my partner did.

 

Loving someone wholeheartedly is way better than changing partners again and again tumblr: basementstalker
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Dropped one of my healthier coping mechanisms because they didn't like it and ended up picking up a sicker one. Lol

I'd tear myself apart for love.
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As much as I try to be as flexible as possible, I think the few things that are hard for me to change are religious beliefs and my personality. 

I’m not all that religious and am just not that into it, I can’t really connect with a person like that. And personality wise, I would like for them to like me the way I am. Sure, I’ll change things here and there, but I know that if I try changing myself completely it just wouldn’t be me anymore. Love me, for me just as I love you for you!

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I don't like when people make me change myself to fit themselves. Maybe if over time we bond a lot and enjoy the things he does and bridge over to me I think that would be cool. The most I can do when I find it too early is a facade 

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"To Be Loved Is To Be Changed"

Alas, If They Do Not Love You For Who You Are Then They May Not Love You At All

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I'd change everything just to be loved by the person I love. The only things I won't compromise on anymore is that I want to be listened to for once by my partner for my very important interests. I'm just used to being the listener, I want it to be a collaborative effort of listening to each other. It's only fair, yet some people don't get that... lol.

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I am willing to change many things, though one thing I refuse to change is my appearance. I typically dress in a certain two fashions, one is best described as medieval hippy, and the other is suit's and hats. There are no other styles that suit me. And getting my hair cut short is an impossibility. Trimmed down, sure, but always below shoulder length.

 

(I'm a guy btw.)

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