As long as there's open communication there's nothing wrong with being poly. I have seen several yanderes who are poly, so it is a thing.
It's not for me though. I think if I was interested in someone and it turned out they were poly it'd be a deal breaker.
agree with wowitstea, i think polyamory is a major sin to yandere ideology. i think those people should stop stealing our labels and maybe not exist at all..
You don't agree with me. There is nothing wrong with polyamory. What I said is that it isn't for me. It isn't for everyone.
in this case, i agree with both wowitstea and sslainsaturn;
i too have seen people in the yandere community being polyamorous, but none of the poly relationships lasted long. members of the yandere community don’t equal being yanderes though, at least from my POV they weren’t.
i can’t grasp how yandere poly relationships work - i’m sure they do in some cases but.. with how possessive yanderes are, do they just split attention equally? it’s not always just about one side either, communication would be hard. for example: said poly yandere person’s partners are darlings - are they really 100% fine with others around their yandere too? it already sounds hard to me, i can’t imagine it working in practice.
i'm not absolutely against poly relationships in general - if it works for you, great. i think even if i were polyamorous, the jealousy would eat me up first. in my understanding, a true yandere cannot have a poly relationship.
Ah, yes, poly.
I foolishly thought that poly is fine or that I would be able to handle it. But nope. It drove me right into horrible breakdowns because I simply CAN'T share my beloved or have them do things with somebody else that's not me. So yeah, no poly for me and honestly probably most yanderes too. There might be some very few poly configurations that *might* work, but good luck finding them.
Love for another is not a threat to one's being. This would be zero-sum. Love is an expression of your values to another person, and the more you value, the more you are capable of loving. You can love your partner and your child intensely, yes. And the love for a child doesn't threaten your partner's value to you. However, it is more complicated with polysexuality. I've personally been conflicted with finding a proper answer to it, and this is because I believe in mind-body integration as well as the principle of "if it is moral, then it is practical."
If it is hypothetically true that romantic love can be unlimited, and you are metaphysically capable of romantically and sexually loving two or more people, then there is no mind-body dichotomy, even if you're sexually engaged with one person while the other person is not present. I previously believed it was a dichotomy because you're partaking in a physical action that is involving the highest expression of love (sex) with another person other than your partner, even if you sincerely love them both. And this was a zero-sum fallacy, because you can reasonably spend quality time with a friend over another friend due to external circumstances, but it does not decrease the value of their friendship.
I still find it too repulsive, but it can be objectively defended to this extent.
The real issue is the principle of what is moral is also practical. I discussed the ethics of monoamorous polysexuality with my partner and we both concluded that while this is more practical, it is also more immoral than polyamorous polysexuality because you are disintegrating your mind and body---both belong to your primary partner but only the latter can be expressed to others.
