ɪ ᴄᴏᴜʟᴅɴ'ᴛ ʜᴇʟᴘ ʙᴜᴛ ɴᴏᴛɪᴄᴇ ᴍᴀɴʏ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ᴅɪꜰꜰᴇʀᴇɴᴛ ᴅᴇꜰɪɴɪᴛɪᴏɴꜱ ᴀꜱ ᴛᴏ ᴡʜᴀᴛ'ꜱ ᴄᴏɴꜱᴛɪᴛᴜᴛᴇᴅ ᴀꜱ ᴀ "ʏᴀɴᴅᴇʀᴇ."
ᴅᴏᴇꜱ ʏᴏᴜʀ ᴅᴇꜰɪɴɪᴛɪᴏɴ ᴀʟɪɢɴ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴛʜᴇ ᴄᴜʀʀᴇɴᴛ ᴏɴᴇ ʙᴇɪɴɢ ᴜꜱᴇᴅ? ᴅᴏ ʏᴏᴜ ꜱᴇᴇ ɪᴛ ᴅɪꜰꜰᴇʀᴇɴᴛʟʏ? ʟᴇᴛ ᴍᴇ ᴋɴᴏᴡ ʏᴏᴜʀ ᴛʜᴏᴜɢʜᴛꜱ. ☆
An interesting question. I can't speak for other Yans but with me personally I do relate with the generalized notion of what a Yandere is. But I don't agree with everything the general personality has associated with it.
For me personally, I get super Lovesick. And I do get obsessed with the person I love, I want more than anything to just be with them. And I am willing to go to pretty drastic measures to do so. But, I could never hurt the person I love. I just would never be able to forgive myself if I hurt them. Nor would I ever be able to forgive anyone who hurts them.
So for me personally, A Yandere is someone who is so obsessed with their love interest to the point of being Lovesick, so much so that they are willing to go to drastic measures to be with them.
But this is just my personal feelings, what about everyone else's~?
On mobile so simplistic reply. To me, a Yandere is a term for people who in love, tend towards codependent/abusive behaviors in relationships. No one here wants to be abused or an abuser, but when deep in love, it'd be false to say the door to it doesn't open for some.
For myself, I'm far more possessive than obsessive, so sometimes I worry if I'm actually yandere or just a poser. Then I remember normal people don't get jealous over any social connection outside of themselves.
yandere is someone that loves love
they put it before every aspect in they're lifes,
they treasure it, admire it, and love it so much that all they want to do is hide this little precious thing from the rest of the world
because there's nothing more important
and there's nothing more painful than losing it
( atlest... that's how Id define it .)
Love, purified and distilled into an addiction. It is painful it is sweet, it is terrifying it is reassuring. It is burning passion and melancholy in one. It is the want and the desire tempered by the warmth and comfort in the security of the love that is had. At least to me it is.
It's also pretty hot-_- (don't @me)
For me, being a yandere is loving someone so deeply, so fully, that you'd burn the god damn Earth to the ground and everyone on it, if it was for their sake. A love so obsessive and unmorally obligated. Love doesn't follow the rules. My loved ones are my only reason to live. My fiancés, pets, friends, all of them are my reason of being. For yanderes, love is the most violently intense emotion. I love the feeling of being in love!
To me a yandere is someone who loves in a way that general society sees as excessive and extreme. There are many flavours of yandere (possessive, obsessive, dependent, controlling, etc) but I think the intenseyof the love is key.
