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Terms besides yandere?


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This is a forum for yanderes, but do you refer to yourself as such? What term do you prefer and why?

And for funsies you can also list terms you've heard.

I use yandere because it's the only thing that really gets notice- if you say you're an irl yandere people generally know what you mean. I don't like it personally though, since it comes from describing fictional characters.

Terms I've heard are obsessive lover, lovesick, yeredere, and bunny boiler.

Loving someone wholeheartedly is way better than changing partners again and again
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psycopath murderer

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Anti-social lovers.

If we define "social" as a term for interaction between people that is oriented to the well-being of others, then what we call "yandere" excludes this "social" behavior that is oriented towards other people outside the relationship, to whom the lover(s) might even show a hostile behavior. In that sense, a relationship works as a protective shield against others.

The "yandere" usually describes a female fictional character. The term "anti-social lovers" could be applied to irl people

... and no, these people aren't (at least necessarily) "psycopath murderer"s.

"Love is the law, love under will."
last edit on 9/4/2023 8:32:56 AM
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 I really like this term! It doesn't resort to the obvious, and makes a lot of sense the way you say it. I myself don't have an alternate term in mind, but this is worth noting. 

Anti-social lovers.

If we define "social" as a term for interaction between people that is oriented to the well-being of others, then what we call "yandere" excludes this "social" behavior that is oriented towards other people outside the relationship, to whom the lover(s) might even show a hostile behavior. In that sense, a relationship works as a protective shield against others.

The "yandere" usually describes a female fictional character. The term "anti-social lovers" could be applied to irl people

... and no, these people aren't (at least necessarily) "psycopath murderer"s.

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psycopath murderer

Psychopath = antisocial personality disorder. Yandere is much closer to borderline personality disorder.

Psychopaths can't care about people or have morals, which leads to the stupid ones getting in trouble a lot for obvious reasons. Borderlines usually get in trouble because they care about people or morals enough to randomly pull out a knife and start stabbing somebody who gets in the way of that. Like, "shoplift and the checkout lady chases you down with a knife". Or, y'know, yandere antics.

last edit on 9/15/2023 4:27:45 PM
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Someone in another community was making aware that Obsessive Love Disorder (OLD) is actually a thing ...

"Love is the law, love under will."
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yes, it's another way of understanding, but to really understand it would be necessary to place it in everyone's place, we can only explain or understand that from our own point of view.

that someone else writes or explains a way of understanding does not mean that everyone will understand in the same way

for example what I wrote could be interpreted in different ways as much as the person who analyzes it

what I wanted to make clear is the awareness of identity, we all need to be a person and therefore to have our identity, sometimes we find it easily and other times more difficult

depending on our choices or our experiences in our life can make us confused or lost

what I am writing here is that I understand that I like the yandere system, but in my own way

most often when we are looking for our identity we take a copy of another identity and it always ends up being blocked because we cannot find it entirely in this choice

understanding that one can be in a field without completely agreeing, allows one to forge one's identity

therefore each system can be analyzed globally, but each point of view differs due to the vision of each

the yandere system allowed me to find my way of being and give it meaning, but it is only by choosing to accept only what corresponds to me without taking care of the whole that I took my identity

yandere are often frowned upon in terms of the overall explanation, but observing individually, the vision would be different

I don't know if my vision will have given you a different way of seeing, but all this remains a vision seen from my point of view

Love is like a crystal, as precious as it is fragile, but only the Yandere can increase its positive potential tenfold
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Before I knew what the yandere term was… I called my self “obsessive” and “clingy”.

 

True love never dies <3
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Someone in another community was making aware that Obsessive Love Disorder (OLD) is actually a thing ...

 Not an accepted thing, at least not yet and possibly not ever.

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