I find it extremely difficult to let go of someone I am attached to, it feels like a curse... Even after reaching the point of no return with friends or love interests, it still takes me years to surrend myself to the idea they are not coming back. Does someone else here ever feel like that?
mhmm me, i "broke up " with my boyfriend who was my first and he promised me marriage and all, he then ghosted me after only one year as I was busy with my family issues, he was my light in the darkness, until last week I sent him some motivating emails because before he did so he told me his family has some fights and problems. i don't know if he is lying or not but i wish him the best he was a good man.
mhmm me, i "broke up " with my boyfriend who was my first and he promised me marriage and all, he then ghosted me after only one year as I was busy with my family issues, he was my light in the darkness, until last week I sent him some motivating emails because before he did so he told me his family has some fights and problems. i don't know if he is lying or not but i wish him the best he was a good man.
I don't know the ins and outs of your relationships with him, did you move on? You both had some problems that left you separated from each other, maybe he can look back on it after reading your email. How much time haven't you heard from him?
its been 6 months, and no we can't get back together, he was kind and sweet to me, I didn't play with him much ( as I said family issues) and I was too shy to have a voice chat with him while playing because I had a huge crush on him and I start muttering a lot so I went mute. but I chat with him and apologized if I missed a message giving the reason. he wouldn't wait for me so he left ghosting me from every platform so even if I sent him anything or everything he won't receive it. + I don't want to be in a relationship with a man who leaves without saying a word.. the least thing I ask for is to respect me having feelings... just respond to my messages after all I was checking on his health.
i didn't move on fully
its been 6 months, and no we can't get back together, he was kind and sweet to me, I didn't play with him much ( as I said family issues) and I was too shy to have a voice chat with him while playing because I had a huge crush on him and I start muttering a lot so I went mute. but I chat with him and apologized if I missed a message giving the reason. he wouldn't wait for me so he left ghosting me from every platform so even if I sent him anything or everything he won't receive it. + I don't want to be in a relationship with a man who leaves without saying a word.. the least thing I ask for is to respect me having feelings... just respond to my messages after all I was checking on his health.
i didn't move on fully
I understand now. But I think you are taking the right stance on this, you did what you could to make it work. You have been promised much, of course it'll take time to move on.
It gets better after the first one, and the second one, and so it goes on.
I remember being so idealistic on my first relationship, so I can't stop thinking that all of this had a positive effect on me. I, now, feel more mature when it comes to relationships.
Well, yes, the best cure for it is to find someone else to build an attachement to. Like Ceres said, you can use our former relationship(s) or attached behavior to learn out of it and to become aware of your own behavior.
As for me, I did obssess over a woman in my social vacuum who didn't wanted to tell me that she has a boyfriend and I bet it was because she didn't wanted to hurt my feelings (she has a history of being emotionally hurt and this might provide the reason why she doesn't want to hurt others). In addition to that, I bet that she was in love with me because she was showing some notable signs when I was around her. Now she's completely gone in my life and I have found someone else to obssess over - with their consent. <3
ɪᴛ'ꜱ ʜᴀʀᴅ ꜰᴏʀ ᴍᴇ ᴛᴏ ʟᴇᴛ ɢᴏ. ꜰʀɪᴇɴᴅꜱ ᴀɴᴅ ʟᴏᴠᴇʀꜱ ᴀʟɪᴋᴇ-- ᴛʜᴇʏ ᴡᴇʀᴇ ᴀᴘᴀʀᴛ ᴏꜰ ᴍʏ ɪɴɴᴇʀ ᴡᴏʀʟᴅ, ᴀɴᴅ ɪ ᴄᴀɴ'ᴛ ꜰᴀᴛʜᴏᴍ ᴛʜᴇ ᴛʜᴏᴜɢʜᴛ ᴏꜰ ᴛʜᴇᴍ ʟᴇᴀᴠɪɴɢ. ᴇᴠᴇɴ ᴡʜᴇɴ ʏᴇᴀʀꜱ ᴘᴀꜱꜱ, ɪ ᴍᴀᴋᴇ ꜱᴜʀᴇ ᴛᴏ ʀᴇᴍᴇᴍʙᴇʀ ᴛʜᴇᴍ ᴇᴠᴇɴ ɪꜰ ɪ "ᴍᴏᴠᴇ ᴏɴ." ᴛʜᴇʏ ʜᴇʟᴘᴇᴅ ꜱʜᴀᴘᴇᴅ ᴡʜᴏ ɪ ᴀᴍ. ʙᴜᴛ... ɪ ᴄᴀɴ'ᴛ ʜᴇʟᴘ ʙᴜᴛ ʀᴇꜱᴇɴᴛ ᴛʜᴇᴍ, ᴇᴠᴇɴ ᴊᴜꜱᴛ ᴀ ʙɪᴛ, ꜰᴏʀ ʟᴇᴀᴠɪɴɢ.
Oh, believe me op i know exactly how you feel.
I was very good friends with a girl during lockdown we were very close and despite us not being an official couple we were both kinda into each other.
We were both into the whole yandere thing and that was what brought us together.
We knew each other for 2 years and i was really in love with her ngl however eventually she moved on and i have not heard from her in about a year.
Sometimes i still think about her and i miss her so much.
I don't believe in letting go. I've been in love with my puppy since I was 18. I adore him. I worship him. He's everything to me. I can't imagine not being on my knees worshipping him.
