It can be agreed that Yandere behavior is in general toxic/unhealthy, most people do still have an upper limit on what they'll do/support, even in love. What do you consider too much? Focusing on moral and ethics, everything's fair game as long as no one uninvolved is being majorly affected by the event. Stalking, gaslighting, stealing, certain levels of violence. Love can be war like, and victory is all that matters.
It can be agreed that Yandere behavior is in general toxic/unhealthy, most people do still have an upper limit on what they'll do/support, even in love. What do you consider too much? Focusing on moral and ethics, everything's fair game as long as no one uninvolved is being majorly affected by the event. Stalking, gaslighting, stealing, certain levels of violence. Love can be war like, and victory is all that matters.
I have different levels of acceptance...
There's a range of "I'm upset" to "now I want to break up" type response. Most cases, I'll be upset because I'm afraid they will get caught and I will be considered an "accomplice". I wouldn't break up with them if they were violent or killed someone. Unless, its relatives who were not an immediate danger to my physical safety.
I'm not a masochist (so I don't want to be physically hurt more than biting, restraints, small cuts). I would rather be manipulated behind the scenes.
I want to be stalked, certain types of manipulation, some items can be stolen or collected (unless it's high value), etc.
True love never dies <3
An interesting question! As for my answer to this, is it depends!
If it's me, Then I don't think I could ever hurt my darling. (Unless they ask me to, of course <3) Of course, it's hard to say how much is too much when you consider yourself. I try my best to keep it on the down low, but I do get Lovesick. For me personally, hurting your lover is almost always a no go.
Now if I had a Yandere as a lover... It depends as well. I'd be okay with them doing just about everything I do. I wouldn't want to be hurt. And I do think being stalked can be endearing... as for manipulation. I've been manipulated a lot in my past so they'd have to be careful with that. Buuut... I absolutely melt when I'm Lovebombed by someone I like.
So for me it depends, but generally I'm okay with a lot. Stalking, Obsessiveness, Manipulation? All good as long as we don't hurt each other. We'd have to communicate to lay down some boundaries for us in the beginning of the relationship and what not.
I'm pretty timid and bubbly~! So I'm pretty chill with a lot in a relationship!
Now cheating however... Is an absolute no go.
A very interesting question though~!
I hope you can Love me as much as I Love You~ <3
For me it's a personal thing, my two big nonsense are if other people get involved (properly threatained hurt or killed.) Or just actual loveless abuse. Like I can appreciate my partner telling people to eff off but there comes a point where I don't want them to get in trouble because of me. And the abuse thing is obvious, if they are just using me as a punching bag and never showing real love, then I have to assume that they don't in fact love me and that I am just a replaicable commodity to them.
hmm... well ...
crime is inacceptable - as adorable as it might be, if your darling ends up suffering from legal trouble that wouldn't be good at all. or vice versa.
isolation is romantic - if my darling was the only person I saw for several days.... locked the door and left with the only key type of thing... it'd be romantic. But even an introvert has one or two people they'd like to chat with once a month atlest.
jealousy & stalking - always adorable
violence - as long as it doesn't leave a bruise.
manipulation and lieing - no, never okay. trust is important in any relationship, especially yandere ones, and to lie or hide something from your darling... just no... from either perspective makes me tremble at the thought
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always with love...
It's not acceptable for me to hurt others in any way, which means that inflciting both physical and psychological pain on someone. The only exception I make is when others are hurting me emotionally - then I'll hurt back.
Stalking can go to far for me - for example if they show up unexpectedly on my property. Sometimes I just need my privacy for a few hours - especially when I go to sleep. Trying to get to know me through stalking is kinda sweet for me.
Manipulating me is hard. I have a high self-esteem and it is highly unlikely that somone will get me out of my own path. Usually I'm the one who manipulates - I take people deep down the rabbit hole with my knowledge of things. However, I love to learn from others!
Violence - well, I don't want to end up in prison ...
"Love is the law, love under will."
As hard as it is to connect like I prefer with "normal" people, this question really makes me reconsider seeking connection in yandere themed communities. Sure violence and crime are the obvious answers and I will judge someone harshly for wanting to harm unrelated parties for their own selfish, under-examined desires, but the edgelord tendencies are becoming perhaps my biggest dealbreaker.
Nobody thinks you're cool for taking a picture of yourself covered in blood, you're not cute for telling some random on Twitter to kill themselves, fetishizing mental illness (regardless of if you suffer from it or not) doesn't make you deep or smart or some pure tortured soul, grow up and get over yourself. Not directed towards anyone here, I just get tired of stuff like that.
This is such a good question.
Personally, being fairly submissive myself I'm relatively okay with stalking/manipulation/isolating, and the such! Being into knifeplay and stuff like that also helps with my support with more suggestive things. As long as there's always affection, a lot of it.
Honestly the only place where I'd draw the line would be hurting people close to me, and well, crime in general (Even though that could be debatable).
It can be agreed that Yandere behavior is in general toxic/unhealthy, most people do still have an upper limit on what they'll do/support, even in love. What do you consider too much? Focusing on moral and ethics, everything's fair game as long as no one uninvolved is being majorly affected by the event. Stalking, gaslighting, stealing, certain levels of violence. Love can be war like, and victory is all that matters.
Extreme violence towards others or themselves and to an extent myself. Can't exactly enjoy or show love from a grave or prison. Cool with stalking though hell I'd condone it as long as it didn't disrupt there life. And I'm not a model of someone with a great spine so it's not gaslighting or even base manipulation are useful as id follow them happily to do nearly anything if I was just shown love.