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well personally I wouldnt care if they hurt others (not ppl close to me tho) as long as they dont get caught and arent a sadist and do it quickly.

although when I see signs of them just using me, manipulating me and seeing me as replacable, I instantly gtfo.

stalking is fine, as long as I have at least a bit of privacy and alone time sometimes.

hurting me intentionally is also a no go and hurting me badly unintentionally is also a no go, supressing urges and trying to communicate is the most important part in having actual relationships like this, if my yandere would hurt me just because of a small misunderstanding then that would be bad but if its fixable with a honest talk then thats still acceptable.

always remember to communicate

Being obsessive and stalking me is okay.

Even doing some harm to me is okay as long as they still love me.

But I would put a line on doing gross / unsanitary things.

And doing things that threaten the stability of our relationship.
(Like getting in trouble and going to prison, or destroying important things that we need.)

And yes, communication is very important.

Boundries are something negociated between couples.I may be a yandere, but I'm still a person, and I believe in listening to my partner.

I don't think I have a lot of hard no's for them. I love clinginess and possessiveness. and I take my partners happiness very seriously. and if it's a romance made in hell, than so be it.

As long as the love is true and sincere, there's very little I wouldnt do for the person Ive fallen for. 

Any and all levels of yandere behavior are acceptable to me. I don't mind being chained up , stalked  or manipulated.

I will stick by senpai no matter what he does.

There is no limit. Except for deffiance of immortality. For example, disloyality or self-destruction, self-hatred is probably one thing I won't be able to handle for long.

But this wouldn't be issue if I choose the partner, although it is more difficult, practically impossible.

If it's towards me... I'm comfortable with most things. Possessiveness, jealousy, and obsessiv behavior make me feel loved. Stalking, subtle manipulation, hurting others that get too close to me(in such a way they won't go to jail ofc) is endearing. I feel like it's proof that I am loved. I would say outright murder isn't good - not only will you most definitely get caught, there are so many other ways to get someone out of the way or get whatever it is you're trying to achieve.

As for myself, I've stalked IRL and online, done things to show that I am the safest person for them and get them to depend on me more, creating shrines, and collecting items (blood, skin, leftover bottles, etc). Murder isn't a good option, though I admit that when I've been in spirals I have considered it. Luckily I've always called myself down enough to not.

wowitstea said: 

If it's towards me... I'm comfortable with most things. Possessiveness, jealousy, and obsessiv behavior make me feel loved. Stalking, subtle manipulation, hurting others that get too close to me(in such a way they won't go to jail ofc) is endearing. I feel like it's proof that I am loved. I would say outright murder isn't good - not only will you most definitely get caught, there are so many other ways to get someone out of the way or get whatever it is you're trying to achieve.

As for myself, I've stalked IRL and online, done things to show that I am the safest person for them and get them to depend on me more, creating shrines, and collecting items (blood, skin, leftover bottles, etc). Murder isn't a good option, though I admit that when I've been in spirals I have considered it. Luckily I've always called myself down enough to not.

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Maretsu said: 

It can be agreed that Yandere behavior is in general toxic/unhealthy, most people do still have an upper limit on what they'll do/support, even in love. What do you consider too much? Focusing on moral and ethics, everything's fair game as long as no one uninvolved is being majorly affected by the event. Stalking, gaslighting, stealing, certain levels of violence. Love can be war like, and victory is all that matters.

 I can understand a lot more than I'll outright support. Murdering a lady's husband because you want the lady for yourself might be something I can sympathise with, but it wouldn't be very good for society if we legalised it; that would trigger the war of all against all*. Ditto for kidnapping a stranger, even if I'd probably respond relatively well to a romantic kidnap.

The stigmatisation of stalking I really, really object to; borders on medicalisation of love.

*With that said, you can go a really long way before legitimately running into "this would collapse society". "It's legal for the victim of adultery to murder the perpetrators" wouldn't trigger the WoAaA because only adulterers would feel the need to defend themselves (rather than, potentially, everyone who's married or in a relationship); indeed, this was law for much of history with no serious problems.

I don't mind anything as long as no one uninvolved gets hurt.  Hurting others physically or psychologically is a big no-no to me. As long as I am obsessed with them and they are obsessed with me, we could simply talk about it and I would cut off anyone and anything that worries them.

As for what I do myself... A lot. It has been a while since I've been so obsessed that I collect things, but I have done so before. But of course, I would never hurt anyone. Now that I've fully dedicated myself to them I am throwing out anything they might dislike that I do.