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An intriguing question. When it comes to people I like, they tend to be similar in interests or personality. Like anime, history, or gaming. Slow and methodical in their ways, blah blah. Before I allow myself to love though, I always make sure they aren't the type to freak out over stuff like shrines, clingy behavior, or intense jealousy. If they do it just never works out. If I think itll be fine, or negotiated later, I usually try to start buttering them up over a month or two. With mostly truthful things. 

I completely agree that there's nothing better than love~.

Personally I'm very very pick about who I fall in love with. It has to be someone who makes me feel loved and understood as well as someone I can have fun with. Someone who can be both my best friend and lover. I'm a naturally quiet person at first too (A bit of a loner). So if someone can work up the trust with me to become my best friend then I likely will catch some feelings for them.

At that point, I'll get naturally protective of them.

I'm not very picky, in all honesty. I mostly just look for someone that can keep the rythm I have, I'm a very intense and passionate person (not only when it comes to love, I'm an all-in kind of guy with most of my interests) and not everyone can keep up with all that. I'm fairly adaptable, and if my person of interest has the same passion I have, I generally have no trouble picking up on their interests or the things they like.

I am naturally protective of people in general, I care a lot about people close to me. But when I like someone I also tend to get fairly possessive. Again, an all-in kind of guy.

I’m super open about everything and some people really like it and feel an instant connection. They open up pretty quick and we get to know each other very personally. I love someone who’s a little quiet and comes of as gentle and even tempered. Kinda nerdy too! I also like them to have their own passions and drive. As an artistic person I prefer it to be artistic in nature. We’ve probably known each other for at least a few months and things have grown overtime. They probably have some of the same mental illnesses as me depression mostly, but sometimes they have ADHD too, but not BPD. I loved someone with BPD traits once bad move. I want someone who can be my best friend my love and my everything. They normally are also clearly interested too.

hmm, I think for me.. Ive always been drawn to people that were different... as if Im walking in a world of monotone..  until I see them. and either blatantly or subtly,  I spot this person that just feels out of place.

Im attracted to people that remind me of artwork.  Overly shy types, overly agressive, even alil unhinged. Extremes,  that look like splattered colors and competing brushstrokes.  

 
I could  completely hate the piece, and yet looking at them, they make me feel more alive.  ...and on a rare occasion, it fills me such a warm admiration-  i just cant help but chase after it... 

My darlings are my fiancés, another long distance partner, two friends I have crushes on, and my various self ships! I don't really choose, per se, I just fall head over heels with someone and roll with it. It's gotten me into trouble in the past, gotten me really hurt, but my darlings keep me under control and safe now!

starry_gaze said: 

hmm, I think for me.. Ive always been drawn to people that were different... as if Im walking in a world of monotone..  until I see them. and either blatantly or subtly,  I spot this person that just feels out of place.

 Outcasts are the best :-)

Finding someone fixated on conforming with mainstream culture just makes me lose all interest in them. That seems like a completely failed life. Is that really what you want to spend your entire life on? Unfortunately that's roughly the entire species.

Absolute minimum requirement, they have to not be put off by deviance. Then we can have a real fucking conversation and learn how we feel about each other.

I’m not picky at all when it comes to who I’m in love with, I’m bisexual but i have a preference for women. I basically just want someone with similar interests and beliefs as me that is  dedicated the same way I am. I find that I can hardly resist someone that is interested in me like I am with them and this usually means pretty intense obsession I also enjoy people that I can have meaningful conversations with them and feel comfortable with and trust I can’t even say that I have any particular personality preferences because I like them all which is probably why I fall in love so easily. Basically just don’t be abusive one thing that I cannot stand is manipulative people who are just trying to use you. I’m very shy so I could probably never approach someone because I don’t have the social skills and would probably mess up.

I'd like to say I'm not picky since those qualities seem so natural to me, however in this materialistic age it may be considered fairly high standards ...

Let's see, absolute monogamous mutual exclusivity and dependency are crucial. I despise the idea of some intruder receiving too much of my or my s/o's attention, with the exception of family members I suppose.

I've been saving myself sexually and I can't really imagine myself dating a non-virgin. I couldn't care less about the social status of it or anything, it's just that intercourse, while not mandatory, is like a sign to the contract of love to me. Dating someone who's gone that far with someone else before, no matter the context, simply ... feels wrong.

I'd also like to have my own kids someday, so despite me being panromantic, compatibility in that regard (I'm a guy so someone with XX chromosomes and fertile) is also highly appreciated. I think that box not being checked would be the easiest to cope with for me out of these.

Other than that, the obvious stuff – I'm not able to love someone who doesn't align with the values and beliefs most important to me (being a silly goofball for example ^^).